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I have been trying to make some serious changes in my life lately, some of them have been difficult and heart wrenching, but at the end of the day, I know these changes are for the best.
Spilling My Guts
A few weeks back, someone asked me what had I achieved in my life, what have I amounted to?. Well the question wasn’t asked, it was more of an accusation. And later while I was sitting trying to fix my blog (again) it hit me that I never give myself credit for the things I do. I don’t expect to be rewarded, I don’t ask to be.
Last year I had to make an awful decision. Now without spilling my guts about my personal life, the decision I made affected my life completely, but I knew it was the right decision because the outcome has proven that. I wasn’t happy with the decision, I felt guilty, I felt I had failed. I was feeling all the negative things, punishing myself even though it was the right thing to do.
Take Credit When Credit is Due
What I didn’t do was give myself credit  for making the hardest decision in my life, as a Mother, and having the courage to carry it out. It hasn’t been easy, I know people are whispering behind my back and giving looks of disapproval. But at the end of the day they can’t deny I made the right decision, they can’t argue the fact I did the wrong thing because of the outcome of the situation, which did turn out to be the best thing I could have done under the circumstances.
It also made me realise that I never take credit, even if its just silently to myself. I don’t expect it to be frontpage news, or expect a pat on the back. I have achieved several things in my life, even if other people are not willing to admit it.
If you deserve the credit, then take it.
Be Proud
We all like to be recognised for the things we do, we like to hear others saying ‘Well done’, there is no shame in being proud of your accomplishments. It gives you the the feel good factor, it keeps you in a positive frame of mind.
Be proud of your achievements.
Blow Your Own Trumpet
There is also no shame in blowing your own trumpet, let  the world know what you have accomplished. (Although, don’t be overbearing by going on and on about it. )  Let them see you are a person capable of success, that your life is a success or your business, because you worked hard for it.
Blowing your own trumpet doesn’t necessarily mean your bragging and boasting, and thinking your better than everyone else. Its just that you are recognising you have been successful, and you are elated and want to share the feel good factor with everyone else.
Every now and then we want to be recognised for our work and success, especially when it seemed like an impossible dream. You may have struggled, you may have cried or lost your temper in the process, but the blood , sweat and tears do pay off.
So today, I’m blowing my own trumpet!
Do you blow your own trumpet and take the credit where its due? Do you need someone else to give you credit and be recognised?
Maria,
Sometimes we’ve to make some very difficult decisions and carry through with some equally difficult actions. The detail of yours is irrelavent to me, but the fact you’ve ‘done it’ shows you’re a person of strong character; able to make those decisions without fear. Well done!
I’ve had to make some difficult decisions in the last 12/18 months that have meant a difficult and challenging life; I wouldn’t change it for the world. I’m a far stronger person for it and thoroughly enjoying my life.
Thank you for sharing.
Regards
Paul
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Thanks Paul, everyone has to make touch decisions, some tougher than others. Even though at times you feel you will never pull through, somehow you always find the strength to do just that.
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I’m not afraid to say that I pray about tough decisions (and small ones. Sometimes their tougher) and I always tell myself that if I’m going to pray then I need to have the faith that I’m making the correct decision based on my being guided by my prayer through faith. Now I don’t proclaim to be thumper but I do believe in spirituality and prayer. So I’m usually comfortable with the decision, even when it doesn’t always turn out like I’d hoped.
I usually don’t base my decisions on how others are going to view them, though it is tough when it comes to personal life decisions. I am #1 in my life and I have to do what’s right for me, no ones going to do it for me.
So yeah, I toot my own horn sometimes. I think it’s necessary. and OK. Thanks Maria.
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I think we forget sometimes about our own achievements because we are too focused on everyone else’s, or we don’t consider our achievements to be great. It doesn’t matter how small, or how long ago, if it matters to you then by all means blow your own trumpert.
Thanks Lee, hope your having a good weekend.
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Maria,
Excellent post, and a topic I also struggle with. Even today I found myself negating a comment by a friend that I had a blog and was “cutting edge.” I caught myself in the middle of self-deprecation and said, you know what, I am cutting edge! I am working on giving myself credit, internally and with others. I’ve certainly gotten better at accepting others’ compliments, which is huge progress, so the next step is validating myself for my tremendous talents.
Linda
You Go Girl!!!
If we don’t give ourself credit and be proud of what we have achieved, will anyone else? Blow your own trumpet, it oozes confidence and likeability.
Start showing everyone you are proud of your work, give yourself credit, you deserve it.
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Hi Maria,
Sorry to hear that you have been going through some difficulties. This is the point where you must rely on your own sense of self to see you through, regardless of any one else. At the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and decide whether you are okay with that person looking back or not. It sounds like you are and that you have made the right decision *for you*. To heck with everyone else, it’s your life.
No one else has to (or can) live your life. Even if no one else is, you can be very proud of who you are.
Keep strong.
Karen
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Hi Karen,
Although I still have a long way to go, I have finally taken back my life and working on making the changes defusing the negativity. There are times when tough decisions have to be made, even though its the last thing you thought you would ever do.
Thanks for the support and words of encouragement Karen, I appreciate it.
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